Guilt eats at you…then it doesn’t.

I worry about what others think.  Did I offend them?  Will they think I’m weird?  Will they still be friends with me?  Does my husband hate me for that?  We all have times doubt and guilt run rampant in our brain.  I shouldn’t have said that.  I can’t believe I went out.  I haven’t done anything all day.  I’m not a good enough wife.  I’m screwing up this parenting thing (hello doggie parenting is a thing!).  I don’t reach out enough to friends.  I spend too much time stressing.  I work too much.  I don’t say enough of the things I should.  

The list goes on and on.

But we have to stop.  We are sabotaging ourselves.  How many times have you heard “what you think about yourself becomes truth”?  Why do we waste time in guilt???  What good does it do?  We are all human and we are gunna eff up!  We all sometimes do selfish things or say the mean thing.  But those that know you will know that’s not who you are all the time.  So why waste time thinking about what your shoulda coulda woulda done different?  When you could use that time to repair the relationship.  To build a deeper friendship.  To grow as a person. 

It is again not an easy task to let go of something we have been taught to feel.  How many times do you try to “out do” your neighbor for holiday lights?  Or “show up” your “mean girl” friend on vacation?  Or even try to make you kids birthday party/your reveal party/insert your favorite thing to compare here, into something bigger and better that what your social media following is doing?  These are all natural responses to what life has been throwing at you, but guess what?  You will be ok if your vacation turns out being camping in your own back yard.  Or if your house is a tiny place with bare walls.  Or if you don’t put up any decorations for the holiday, although you might make yourself sad on that one!  At the end of the day we are all trying our best.  Doing what we are able and trying to live a life we love.  So cut yourself a break.  At least for the rest of the day!   Don’t feel guilty about what you’re not doing “right” and celebrate what you’re doing that’s just for fun or just to relax or just to get by.  You have to change what you tell yourself or it can get scary.  As my yoga teacher says when we are towards the end of the class…

You are enough.

You do enough. 

Keep telling yourself this!  So that guilt can go bother someone else.